Corporate party at a new job where you still hardly know anyone from the team, or an invitation to a party with a new friend, where you don’t know anyone at all. It’s impossible to refuse, but it’s scary to go. How to successfully join an unfamiliar company and leave a pleasant impression of yourself? How to have fun with everyone, and not sit alone in the corner with salads and drinks? Read carefully and reel on your mustache.
1. How will they like it? Very simple. You just need to forget about the desire to please. The more we want to please someone, the more often we get the opposite effect. People see our pretense and desire to please. Someone is annoying, and who is smarter, he begins to use it. Let's approach this issue from the other side. Make them like you. Feel yourself sincere sympathy for all these strangers. After all, there is something good in each of them, you can believe me. You just need to see it. Even in the system administrator Petya, who sputters when talking. And in the secretary Lyudochka, a terrible gossip and talker. Look what a cute pink headband Ludochka is wearing today. Why not a compliment? Sincere compliment!!! And now Lyudochka has something to talk about - where did she buy this headband, what headbands are in fashion now, in which stores are there summer discounts on headbands?
2. Do I need to smile? Dale Carnegie, an internationally recognized specialist in the psychology of communication, considered a smile to be the most in a simple way make a good impression on yourself. Smile at the world and the world will smile back. Yes, this is true, unless it is a good mine for a bad game. Smile because you are really happy. Generate this joy and good mood, enjoy everything that happens. Your radiant smile will become truly attractive and irresistible.
3. What to talk to them about? You can talk to strangers about almost anything. About the weather, about politics, about music, about recipes, about fashion, about men, about gophers…. The main thing is that the conversation should be interesting to both parties and it is desirable that in its process both parties understand that how much they have in common with the interlocutor. Just like the Siamese twins Zita and Gita. And further. Business Etiquette suggests that at corporate parties it is usually considered bad manners to talk about work. So take note. But it is even worse to turn communication into washing the bones of your colleagues and superiors. So that later it would not be excruciatingly painful and ashamed of the words spoken in a drunken mind.
5. How to achieve ease and ease in communication? This is only possible if you allow yourself to be yourself. But while you are afraid of someone else's negative assessment, it is almost impossible to do this. Remember how directly and easily small children who do not have this fear communicate. Imagine that all these strangers- one big group of people who love you. They are all very happy to see you. And everything that you will do and say, they will perceive with a bang! Even if you fart loudly, they will enthusiastically applaud you. All of them have gathered to please and cheer you, so that you can enjoy communicating with them. You can relax and behave naturally with them, as with friends. Each of them is pleasant and interesting for you. With such an inner attitude, go to the party!
In previous lessons, we have already told you how to create an image, what make-up and hairstyle to complement it. The time has come - to learn how to behave in a new company and produce good impression.
Surely you have been in a situation more than once when you were surrounded not only by close friends, but also by new people. Whether it's a friend's birthday, a walk around the city, or going to the movies, sometimes it's not easy to feel comfortable in a new company. Of course there are people who will always find mutual language with strangers and love to be the center of attention. But if you sometimes feel difficulties in communicating with new people, our advice is for you!
Vlogger MomockaPai has already told in the third lesson #get togethergirls how to prepare for such an event, and also shared funny stories from her life - don't forget to watch!
We will tell you what to do and how to behave when you are already in a new company.
Get started first. Most likely your girlfriend has already introduced you to other guys and maybe even told something about you. But you probably won’t remember everyone at once, and there’s nothing to worry about. Just approach the person you like, jokingly admit that you didn’t remember his name and be sure to remind him of yours. Sincerity is always welcome and it will be easier for you to start a conversation.
Join your friends. If you find it difficult to approach a stranger yourself, start communicating with those you already know. They will most likely introduce you to their friends, and you can start with general topics - this will make it much easier for you to overcome shyness and liberate yourself.
Be open and positive. You should not start your acquaintance with a story about your problems, because this can alienate the interlocutor. Better tell about some funny story that happened to you the other day or find out about the interests of the interlocutor. Try not to answer in monosyllables, otherwise the conversation will come to a standstill.
Give me a couple of compliments. Just don't say them every step of the way. Most people feel flattery and don't like it at all. Moreover, who wants to be known as a "sneak"? At the same time, a person will be very pleased if you make a sincere compliment. So praise only what you really like. You can start, for example, with good music or a very cute pet.
Do not be silent. Feel free to start a conversation or ask a question. Watch your interlocutor: maybe he has headphones or a player with him, which speaks of his love for music, or a T-shirt with a print in the form of your favorite band? Or start with a neutral topic that is relevant to everyone: interesting series and films, music, hobbies or travel.
And our main advice- relax. You do not have to please everyone, just like all the guys in the company should not like you. Just have fun and don't bother yourself with how you look, whether you do everything right, what you say, and so on. Be natural and then, perhaps, you will find new true friends with whom you don’t need to come up with topics for conversation - it’s enough just to be yourself with them.
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Answer: There are people who can easily fit into new company, they immediately find a common language with everyone, support any conversation, laugh and literally five minutes later they communicate with everyone as if they have known everyone for a hundred years. And there are those who find it difficult to adapt, and if you belong to the second type of people, look closely at new acquaintances, are embarrassed, afraid to freeze stupidity and generally do not feel very comfortable, then do not worry, all this is solvable! There is a set simple rules, fulfilling which, you can become the soul of the company, even if you are the most reserved introvert in the world.
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For teenagers about the rules of communication.
Each of us in our lives has repeatedly been to various kinds of parties. Well, if they are satisfied with acquaintances, and there you know everyone.
It will be much more difficult for you if you got to a party where you see most of the people for the first time. Many, being in similar situation, look confused. They close in on themselves and just wait for the end of the event. As a rule, one or two hours after their arrival, they refer to some business and quietly disappear from the company.
Surely you are now wondering how to organically fit into a new company and become your own in it, while not ruining the evening for yourself or other people. Here are some tips that should help you in this not so simple matter.
Rule 1 Try to laugh at jokes. All people, without exception, love to be talked about, but it gives them even more pleasure if they begin to admire them. And not so much by themselves, but by their great sense of humor. If someone in the company joked, be sure to mark it. Don't let the joker's sense of humor go into the shadows.
Rule 2 If you are talking to a stranger, then you should not ask him too intimate questions. Think about how you would react if a person whom you know for a maximum of a few hours suddenly began to pester you with personal questions. If you see that others are losing interest in the conversation, try asking a question on a fairly broad topic. You yourself will not notice how the conversation will be continued again. The main rule in this case is not to interrupt anyone. If suddenly someone from the company starts asking you questions like “How are you doing?”, then try not to answer in monosyllables, otherwise the interlocutor will start to get the impression that you don’t want to talk to him or you have some problems. Try to get the person to talk without raising too much personal themes. It is possible that you will like each other and begin closer communication.
Rule 3. Try to speak in the same style as the rest of the company. However, do not go to extremes. If the company swears, then you should not imitate them and also start expressing yourself in this way. In such a situation, you can try to find someone in this company who will have interests similar to yours, and start a conversation with him.
Rule 4 Do not speak negative words about anyone until you yourself have a good understanding of the current situation. If the company starts scolding someone behind their backs, this does not mean at all that they are interested in your opinion on this issue. If the conversation has turned to this topic, a delicate silence will be the best way out for you.
Rule 5. In communication, try to be sincere. If it happened that you forgot the name of the person you are talking to, then you can get out of such a delicate situation quite simply. You can take a wait-and-see attitude and just wait a bit for someone to call him by name, but here you risk missing the moment of communication itself. You can do otherwise - directly very politely ask the person his name. However, here you must be as delicate as possible, otherwise you risk offending a person.
Try to keep yourself in unfamiliar company naturally and naturally. Surely most of your acquaintances will be confused if they suddenly find themselves in the center of everyone's attention or in front of a large audience. All words immediately disappear somewhere, in place of coherent and reasonable speech comes slurred muttering. At the same time, there are a fairly large number of people who feel quite comfortable when attention is directed to them. a large number of people. At the same time, these individuals always have enough friends. This is due to the fact that a person knows how to find joy in communication, but for them this is most likely an innate gift.
If nature has not rewarded you with such a talent, then you can develop it in yourself. It is enough to start with training in communication - try to make new acquaintances. These must be smart and well-read people. Try to read more, especially Russian classics. Start going to museums and various exhibitions or theaters. In order to find topics for an interesting conversation, you need to be aware of current events, otherwise all your efforts aimed at developing the ability to communicate will be in vain. Try to follow these not very difficult tips, and you will soon notice that it has become much easier for you to find a common language with people.
At the same time, there are a number of topics that are better left untouched when communicating with people. The main thing is to never speak negatively about anyone, even if the person is extremely unpleasant to you or has done some nasty things to you. There is one wonderful wisdom - treat people the way you would like to be treated. You can joke, in principle, anytime, anywhere. However, before you let go of any witticism, think carefully about whether you will offend anyone with your words. Do not joke about appearance, voice or demeanor. It's not as funny as you think, but you will hurt the feelings of someone who could possibly be of great benefit to you.
Always be natural. The pretense of behavior immediately catches the eye and causes negative emotions at the interlocutor. With respect, you will have to treat not only the interlocutor, but also yourself. The fact is that every person should have a sense of self-worth. During a conversation, never interrupt a person, let him speak - this is a rule of good taste. Even if he interrupts you, don't interrupt back.
Always call the interlocutor by name or by name and patronymic if he is older than you. If you are presented with a gift, then you must accept it with gratitude and a smile, even if you did not like it at all. If you want to expand your social circle as much as possible, then always and with everyone be polite and well-mannered. Then you will do great.
- gratitude will always follow for the assistance provided, and such a person will always respond with a service for a service;
- if well-mannered person for some reason disturbs someone, he will always apologize to the person whom he caused this concern;
— polite person always the first to wish good morning or say hello;
- all your requests are best accompanied in simple words gratitude: "thank you", "please," be so kind ...", "could you ...".
A polite person always has a sense of tact. If you are a tactful person, you will always be able to understand what feelings your interlocutor is currently experiencing. When communicating, in any case, you will have to take into account the nature of the interlocutor. Only in this way will you be able to find a common language with a person and the right form of communication with him.
If you follow these simple tips, then over time you will find that your social circle is slowly but surely increasing. It will become much easier for you to talk with a stranger, to find a suitable topic for conversation. Everyone knows that a person cannot for a long time to be alone. If you manage to learn to find a common language with everyone, then you will forget about this word.
Then when you get into a new company, you probably try to make friends with someone and join new team. Or maybe you recently got a job at new job or moved to another class while studying at school. In all these cases, you need to be able to become your own. What you need to remember so that the process of "lapping" is quick and painless for you?
A person should live with himself and constantly take care that it is good company.
S. Hughes
When talking to someone for the first time, try to remain calm, because balanced people always make a good impression. Therefore, if you are tense because of a change of team or because of a large number of strangers around you, you need to relax.
This way you will win universal recognition even in a new company. Why? Have you ever seen a person who is all so gloomy and always dissatisfied with everything, but around whom there are always a lot of people and everyone communicates with him and wants to see him in his company? I think it's hard to imagine. Yes - gloomy and pessimistic people always push everyone away. Therefore, especially at first, do not speak negatively about someone or something, look for the positive in everything. Also praise those who are close to you for something specific, this will also win others over to you.
A company is a collection of people who share similar interests or activities. They are all one team. Therefore, at first, avoid disputes and clashes, because in this way you set EVERYONE against you. This does not mean that you should not have your own opinion. It should always be, and never change it to please others. The point here is different. You do not need to defiantly express and promote your opinion if you set a goal to join a new company or team.
