You looked after the girl, gave her flowers and gifts, were kind, caring and gentle with her. Perhaps he even forgave her actions that were unpleasant for you. But she still cheated on you.
And here you have a choice 2 response options. First: take offense at the entire female gender, considering them inhuman, deceitful (after all, they say that a guy needs to be kind and gentle, and then he has every chance) and hang all mortal sins on them. Second: understand why girls can change.
Moreover, the clearer you imagine, the faster you will learn to behave in such a way that you will never be cheated on.
You are no longer attracted to her.
You might be a good person. However, women make all their decisions based on feelings and emotions. If they are attracted to a man, then they are with him. If not, then betrayals, separations occur, lies appear, etc.
What exactly should be in a man for a woman to lose interest in him:
Therefore, even that “hooligan Vasya”, who by no means looks like a kind and caring guy, has more girls than a man who always tries to please the opposite sex in everything.
There is only one way out of the situation: to learn how to be attractive to each particular girl. To do this, it is enough to learn the basics, and only then observe which of your qualities a girl likes more. And focus on them.
"Accident"
You may have already heard that for a girl, cheating is when she makes a conscious decision. And that by chance a girl can change.
This is partly true.
However, occasional cheating does happen. For example, a girl could go to a cafe with her friends and start having fun. Perhaps she did not even think that someone would approach her to get acquainted.
But then a group of guys came up, started to stick, and her friends decided to let them continue. The company of guys has already begun to rub their hands and suggested that all the girls go to another place. Everyone agreed.
And our main character could not refuse, because it was inconvenient for her to leave her friends. Or she hoped nothing would happen. But as soon as she gets into someone's apartment, it will be difficult to resist someone's "life".
Physical excitement will make her go against all her principles.
The fact that the girl could drink can also be attributed to chance. a large number of alcohol. Comments are redundant.
"For company"
The amazing reason a girl can cheat. For example, she went with a friend to some place. Then two guys came up to them and began to "get glued." It doesn't matter how it all happens.
The very essence at the end of this event. As soon as her friend is alone with one of these guys, so our main character immediately there is a feeling of rivalry and "herding".
At this moment, her thoughts are something like this: "If a friend, then so am I."
From resentment
You quarreled, you somehow insulted her or offended her in some other way. Also, you could infringe on her rights. It often happens that a man strongly controls a woman, but at some point she explodes and deliberately does everything to his detriment. And since she wants to feel free and independent, then cheats. And yet he thinks he is doing the right thing.
Repay the same
The next reason why a girl could change was that she wanted to repay the same. If she found out that you cheated on her, or simply made such a conclusion (without possessing any facts), then for the sake of revenge she can cheat on you.
Forgive betrayal or not?
Everything here rests on your own principles. If you think that she should not have done this, that it was a very ugly act and you know that you will never forget about it, then do not even try to restore the relationship. It is much better to break your union and never return to it again. Of course you can try. But every time you remember what happened, you will experience severe pain. And this, in turn, will lead to conflicts.
If you are ready to forgive her and you can restore normal relationship, then why not?
The problem is that if you yourself do not change, then betrayal will be repeated.
And every time it is precisely because you do not attract her as a man.
Therefore, the only way out of the situation is the constant development of their seduction skills, as well as the creation of conditions under which the likelihood of betrayal is reduced to zero. Without this, you are unlikely to be able to avoid this problem (exception: men who are initially successful with the opposite sex).
When it comes to infidelity, it is most often assumed that the man is the one who is unfaithful. But girls also quite often admit to cheating on their man, and the reasons for this behavior can be very different. Most of the fair sex repent of the perfect act, and some cannot even explain why they did it. Especially if the betrayal was with a friend of her man, which is considered a double betrayal.
To figure out what to do if a girl cheated on a guy, can real love to forgive such an act, it is worth finding out why this happens. And although not all reasons can justify such behavior, the development of the situation depends on the girl’s intentions and her willingness to restore relations.
Although there are women who do not admit their infidelity and continue to behave as if nothing had happened.
Girls, unlike men, rarely cheat on their chosen ones from " sports interest”, although there are polygamous women for whom one man is not enough.
Often the reasons female infidelity lie in the area of emotional or psychological dissatisfaction, which pushes them to seek solace in the arms of another man. Therefore, it is more difficult to understand why a girl did this in relation to her life partner than to understand the prerequisites for male adultery.
But psychologists identify several main reasons why girls cheat:
Whatever reasons led to the fact that the girl cheated, it is always a crack in the relationship. Even if the girl does not admit to the guy how and why she did it, this situation will always sit in her head, make her doubt and worry. To step over this and build relationships further, you will have to make a lot of effort.
In addition to considering the main causes of female infidelity, it is also important to understand what to do after this. Before deciding whether to tell the guy about her act or not, the girl should consider the possible outcomes of the situation. In addition, it is important to take into account the degree of trust in the relationship and the depth of mutual feeling, which will affect whether a man can forgive his chosen one.
The situation after treason can develop in several directions:
Telling a guy about cheating or not is an individual decision and depends on many factors. You can put yourself in his place and imagine your own reaction to discovering or keeping the secret of betrayal.
All relationships are individual, so no one can give advice or a hint on how to be. Although psychologists advise to be honest with your loved ones - if the feeling is real, it will withstand any storm.
Having changed the guy and confessing it to him, every girl should understand that his confidence will be greatly shaken. Even if he tries to sincerely forgive his beloved and " turn this page”, somewhere deep self-doubt, doubt in sincerity, suspicion of a further repetition of treason will sit deep.
Therefore, to restore trusting relationship Here are a few tips from psychologists to keep in mind:
After a betrayal, building relationships is not easy, trust is difficult to earn, and even more difficult to restore. But if there is a mutual feeling and a desire to move on together, everything will work out.
Cheating is an unpleasant and hurting situation, but sometimes the guy’s zealous attitude and suspicions of cheating are no less worrisome when the girl doesn’t even think about it.
Did your girlfriend cheat on you? Don't you dare suffer! Don't you dare make a scandal to her! Do not try to shed tears and snot, and ask her why she did this to you! Remember that you are a man, you are a warrior, you are a winner, you are the stronger sex after all! How can some kind of female there, and since she cheated on you, it’s hard to call her a person, so we’ll call her a female, unsettle you? Come on, it doesn’t suit you to mess around with such a petty problem - have pride, remember your strength of mind, your masculine qualities and just step over an unworthy female who allowed herself to do this to you. Do you think this is difficult to do? Your heart is broken, and your soul is blackened, and you can’t just take and forget treason like that? Well, then let's try to better understand what a girl's betrayal is and how to survive it.
First of all, let's find out why they, girls, women, cheat on their men? You know, I would not want to write about all sorts of instincts and the natural essence of a woman now, I have written about this in detail in other articles. Let me just say, the propensity to change is part of the female nature. And our, male, by the way, too. We are also those scoundrels, not all, of course, but many. We deceive and betray women, give them great pain and suffering, and after that we still somehow live, we somehow manage to look at ourselves in the mirror. Still, don’t say anything, but in this sense we are worse than women - we, men, cause women much more suffering than they do to us. But to our credit, we are not all like that. By the way, they are women too. But it's not about that now. The point is that in our, human nature, the propensity for treason has settled down very tightly, and only our mind is able to curb it. So that's what I'm all about. And to the fact that if a girl cheated on you, then this does not mean that you are somehow different, that something is wrong with you, that you are a bad male and all that. So all such thoughts and their derivatives - throw out of your head. You can be, and I'm sure you are, quite a normal man, a normal kid who did everything for his girlfriend, but ... What happened happened. Yes, they still cheat on us, no matter how cool we are. Why? Yes, because they are simply drawn to new sensations, to pleasure, to emotional experiences, to something new, not necessarily better, but simply new. For them, it's like buying a damn handbag in a store, she just liked the woman and therefore was bought by her. So with the betrayal, things are the same way - she wanted to - she took it and changed it. In general, the whole point here is the lack of a correct, and in our case, traditional education, the absence of a correct, that is, again, a traditional system of values, and simply the absence of brains in a girl who cheated on you, not thinking about the consequences of her act . Well, you know, passion, feelings, emotions, curbed her poor head. And the consequences, here are some of them, and perhaps many women, girls, of course, think later. And very often many of them, realizing and feeling these consequences, regret what they have done. After all, often after their betrayal, they lose more, much more than the one they cheated on. So your girlfriend, cheating on you, is likely to lose you, right? Will it make her feel better? Unknown.
So here is such a simple reason, one might even say, primitive motivation, like that of the most ordinary female, pushes a woman to change. Well, the mind does not always cope with internal urges, you know. How often can we curb our “want” and do it right? That's it. And what do you want, if a consumer attitude to life and a thoughtless lifestyle have become part of our culture, then all the highest values are simply not perceived by people. And in some cases they are even ridiculed. So I personally read on forums on the Internet how some women ridiculed women's decency and honesty, arguing that being a lying bitch is much more profitable, that no one needs decency and honesty. Here you are, dear reader - do you need decent and honest people, in particular women, girls? I think they are needed. But some women argue that they are not needed. This is the kind of culture we have today, everything is mixed up in it. But in general, I think that this culture is backward. When pleasure is above all, and honor, honesty, conscience, respect, decency, devotion, love, become the subject of ridicule, and some people do not understand these things at all, it turns out that we simply reap what we have sown. Culture makes us people, and we have it, you can see for yourself in what condition. So it wasn't the girl who cheated on you, it was the product of this culture that cheated on you. However, there are girls with a good upbringing and quite a worthy system of values, so we will not treat everyone with the same brush. Let's move on to the next question.
What to do with it? I mean change. Well, what do you do if you come across a defective thing - change it, probably. Here, too, if you think that you deserve the best, or rather, the best girl, then you are looking for this best girl, and release your traitor on all four sides. In the end, your girlfriend is only conditionally yours, on the terms of your agreement with her, so to speak, and even a legal marriage does not give you the right to fully manage your partner's life. In this sense, our culture, thank God, takes into account the interests of the individual. Therefore, if a person does not suit you, change him. And no need for extra talk. Can a person be replaced? Can. If this person does not appreciate you, if there is nothing sacred and nothing valuable left in him, so to speak, then what kind of person is this, in the sense, what kind of personality is this? Well, what are the problems to replace the one that made a thing out of itself? Well, really? Do not kill yourself because someone did not appreciate you and did not live up to your expectations. If you saw in a person something more than he really is, then is this the fault of this person? Well, don't expect from the apple tree that it will begin to bear fruit with cherries. Of course, certain conclusions need to be drawn from this, after all, the girl’s betrayal could have occurred, including through your fault. Accept the possibility that you, too, are to blame for something. Just don't ask your girlfriend what you're guilty of. This is a stupid question, really. You are unlikely to get a truthful answer to it, you will most likely hear a lie with which the girl wants to justify herself. To understand what your fault may be in what happened, you need to objectively look at the whole situation as a whole, in the context of your entire life together with this girl, which is very difficult to do under the influence of emotions, that is, on your own. Ask your friends for help if you have smart ones, and if you have any at all, I mean real friends, not so-so buddies. Or better yet, see a psychologist for help. Explain everything to him properly, in all, so to speak, details, and he will put everything in its place for you, that is, he will help you look at your situation from the outside and understand its patterns. This, in turn, will allow you to understand what role you played in what happened to you, and, accordingly, correct everything that you need to correct in yourself in order to prevent a similar situation from happening again in the future. A psychologist can help you with this as well.
You know, friends, after all, as life shows, and at the same time my experience of solving such problems, many girls, having cheated on their boyfriend, often sincerely repent of their act. But they realize all the vileness and stupidity of this act in full, mainly when they face adverse consequences for them, when they lose their man because of this. Well, this is typical for people, especially for women, who are mostly influenced by emotions, so they don’t always know what they are doing. After all, as they say, we don’t store what we have, but when we lose it, we cry. In general, we are short-sighted beings. Not all, of course, but some of us really cannot foresee the consequences of our actions. This does not mean that some people in principle are not capable of this, it means that they are not trained in this. If a girl has not been taught that before doing something, you need to think about what will follow, then she does not think. And you know what, sometimes, sometimes, cheating on a girl can be forgiven. Yes, I understand that it is not appropriate for a peasant to forgive such things, but still it can be done. They, girls, sometimes get smarter after such a negative experience, and then they never change. I can tell you this for sure, there are such cases and they are not few. Just understand, some people can only learn something from own experience. But the main thing is that they can learn something, it's very good. Therefore, I say that it is possible to forgive a girl for treason if she really realized her mistake and sincerely repented of her act. And we are all wrong. Well now, we are all on the block because of this news. Here, of course, you need to analyze the girl properly in order to understand whether her betrayal was a mistake, but in general she is not inclined to such actions, or she is a chronic cheater who cannot be re-educated. And based on this, you can already make a decision - to forgive her or not. Of course, if you still have feelings for her, if you love her, then it makes sense to sort it all out. And if the feelings have died completely, well, then you need to look for a replacement for this girl. It is not necessary to suffer, it is necessary to act, it is necessary to start a new life.
And here's another point you need to consider, dear readers. Treason, of course, is a terrible sin, reprehensible, condemned, deserving of punishment, but in our vicious world there is little purity and sinlessness left, so sometimes it’s worth closing your eyes to someone else’s sin so as not to be judged for your own sins. But we all sin, or rather, we are all prone to sin. So why should we judge others. It is better to think about your own life. For, as they say, who is not without sin. Do you understand what I'm talking about? Life may turn out in such a way that tomorrow you yourself may not be completely honest with that girl who once, for example, now, cheated on you, because there are many temptations around us, and other people's sins can be used to justify your own sins in order to conscience is not stuck. Who knows, maybe tomorrow you will also cheat on your girlfriend, and then what will you say to yourself, how will you justify your act? But today, now, you can simply hate her, you can suffer, suffer, find no place for yourself, because your Ego was hurt, because you were spoiled in the soul, because you were betrayed. So maybe you should think about tomorrow, about what act you, not so much because of revenge, but because of the desire to experience pleasure, can you do? No, I am by no means saying that this is correct, and that you are no better than your girlfriend, and that your possible tendency to cheat is an excuse for her. I just want you to think about what could be tomorrow in your life and how your girlfriend's cheating might affect your decisions. Suddenly you also want to change her, well, suddenly? You understand, having done this with an honest girl, you will be a real pig, but it’s morally easier to change the one that once cheated on you. However, this is not a universal view of treason, you know. I just decided to show you from what other side you can look at it. It all depends on the specific situation and specific people. In some situations, cheating opens up completely new opportunities for a person, for someone who has been cheated on by a girl.
In any case, a man's life does not end with female infidelity, it just begins. Any incident that shocks us, any blow of fate is a signal that is designed to draw our attention to our life, to our system of values, to ourselves. You definitely need to change something, because if a girl cheated on you, then this indicates that something happened that should have happened, you just didn’t see the prerequisites for this. Therefore, you need to change something in your life and in yourself. What exactly depends on the situation. Either you need to learn how to choose the right girls, women who do not cheat, or you need to behave differently with them so as not to push them to cheat and not create conditions for it, or you need to change your lifestyle in order to be with your girlfriend more often, and not at work all day to disappear, and so on. There are many options here. In general, it is necessary to draw an objective conclusion from what happened, in order not only to see the reason for her betrayal in the girl, but also to find and understand her mistakes. You don't need to live like before, you need to change your life. After all, we all deserve love and happiness, but each person has his own way to them. Therefore, such disgusting acts as treason [if it is unacceptable for you], which gives us the strongest heartache- guide us to the right side helping you find your happiness.
When people talk about love, they mean the devotion of their partners. And creating love relationship, everyone hopes that they will be faithful to him. However, cheating is becoming more and more common. And not only guys can change, but also girls. Why a guy?
To understand why guys might be interested this topic, you should consider what treason is in principle. Change can mean:
In other words, the girl is not completely given to her boyfriend. She dreams, wants or even already has sex with other guys. Everything that a girl gives to other men, she does not give to her partner. This is not only treason, but also a waste of valuable things that could hold the girl and the guy together even more.
Change is the same for everyone. However, many are beginning to separate male and female infidelity, they say:
A man can cheat with another girl, but this does not mean that he loves her. He is purely physical level can meet their needs. A woman, if she cheats, then often at the level of emotions. That is, she must like a partner in order to agree to sleep with him. There is a deal of truth in it. However, there are also girls who also change only at the level of the body, without including the emotional sphere.
By treason is meant giving to a third party what the partner should receive. That is why betrayal is so unpleasant: it was not he who received affection, love, sex, but another person.
However, betrayal is still moral in nature. Society used to shame those who cheated on their spouses. Today, society no longer prohibits cheating on men, but women are still reproached. However, the hour is not far off when women will be able to cheat and be proud of it, showing off to their girlfriends.
Why does a guy need to know why his girlfriend is cheating? If he found out about infidelity, then he should not understand this, but simply leave the traitor. And yet you should find out the reasons for female infidelity. For what?
So why is the girl cheating? There are actually a lot of reasons:
If a girl doesn’t care what a guy thinks about her, then she may not hide her “turns to the left”. A similar situation often develops in a relationship where a guy is madly in love with a girl and asks to meet him, and she simply agreed to his proposal out of pity or nothing to do. While he runs after her, she is interested in other guys.
Such sexually liberated girls can also meet. However, they often offer to build an open relationship. And this is the problem of the guy himself, that he wanted to build a serious relationship with her, not an open relationship.
If a guy is satisfied with an open relationship, then he chose the right path. However, if a guy needs it, then you should first of all think about your behavior. If you don't want to be cheated on, then don't cheat yourself. And it’s better to always start a relationship when you need it, and with a girl who is really interesting and loved by you.
Experiencing a lack of love, a girl can pay attention to a man who will start courting her. Loyalty to a girl is much easier to keep if her partner gives her emotions. However, with an excessive deficit of love, she may doubt the need to be faithful if another man begins to court her beautifully and romantically. This should be known to guys who do not give feelings to their young ladies.
If a girl starts to get bored and long time to be without a boyfriend, then she begins to doubt her need for a partner. If he does not give her attention, emotions, does not compliment, does not rejoice with her, does not spend leisure time together, then it turns out that their relationship is somehow inferior.
But this is the mistake of many guys who think that you need to try only at the beginning of a relationship. Make no mistake. If earlier girls were blamed for cheating, then modern ladies become ambitious young ladies and bitches who have to think about themselves. And if a guy does not pay attention to his beloved, then she can perceive this as a lack of his interest in her. This is how she changes.
Undoubtedly, it's nice when a partner pays attention. However, a measure is needed here. Attention, love, affection and other pleasant moments should not be much and not little, since any extremes lead to betrayal. A girl wants to cheat on a guy who gives her everything and throws the whole world at her feet. Such generosity eventually only tires and bothers.
If you love girls, then do not give them pleasant moments. Sometimes step back, mind your own business, communicate with other people so that your world does not get hung up on partners.
How can relationships be built without sex? This happens when a guy is shy or afraid to take the first step. But the girl is waiting for this, so that the guy wants her. As long as he doesn't want her, she will wait. And if he does not show sexual desire for too long, then she will soon begin to consider him impotent.
If a girl is at least somewhat interested in a guy, then she will not part with him, but she will definitely start cheating. And if the guy does not attract the lady in any way, then she will part with him altogether due to the lack of sex.
If a guy does not want to satisfy his girlfriend in any way, then she will quickly eliminate this flaw in bed with another gentleman. If the guy understands that he is doing something wrong, because of which his lady does not achieve pleasure or orgasm, then he can solve this problem himself or together with her.
It is better if the girl knows that the guy wants to fix the situation. Together they make her happy, and not he quietly tries to cope with his shortcomings. The girl must be clearly aware of the situation, otherwise she will think that the guy does not care about her, and will go to seek solace on the side.
Let the rich guy be fat, ugly, untidy. The girl closes her eyes. He is not sexually attracted to her different ways trying to avoid sex with him. However, intimacy is needed, and she gets it with those guys who, although not rich, are attractive and sexy.
Girls can also cheat, because mores have changed a long time ago. If the guys allow themselves a variety of sex, then the girls will start going to the side. And if a guy wants to find a faithful girl, then he should eliminate the reasons that lie in him so that even the most faithful lady is not provoked to betrayal.
This need is independent of social status, financial situation, level of education. In love, we expect to receive respect, care and attention, protection, we strive for self-fulfillment and self-improvement.
The most seemingly simple, but in life, often the most difficult thing is to meet a person with whom all this and much more would become a real opportunity.
Very often, an obstacle to the emergence, development of love and relationships is the betrayal of a partner (present or remaining in the past). And, if everything is more or less clear with the betrayal of men, then on the part of the woman everything is not so simple.
It is believed that a man cheats because of polygamy, that his cheating is based mainly on physical attraction to a representative (s) of the opposite sex, on a historically “programmed” model of behavior based on the desire for reproduction, the appearance of offspring.
And, despite the fact that we now live in a civilized world, we mostly deliberately approach the creation of families and procreation, somewhere in the subconscious, this same polygamy is still present and manifested.
As for female infidelities, it is impossible to “write off” everything for the same reason. A woman is the keeper of the hearth, a mother, and she, in contrast to male polygamy, is characterized by monogamy. She initially very carefully approaches the choice of a partner, presenting certain requirements to him.
However modern society transformed woman. Her demands went beyond "strong, healthy, hardy", "we need such a man to have healthy children." The woman became more independent, independent, self-sufficient. And she is looking for the same person.
At the same time, a woman still has a steady need to receive and distribute accumulated feelings and emotions, in spiritual closeness.
To understand the motive of female infidelity, it is necessary to plunge into her psychology, analyze many factors: from internal state to what is happening in the world around her.
So why do girls cheat? Among the reasons for the betrayals, called by the women themselves, singled out by psychologists, the following can be considered:
Often in a couple, a man does not appreciate a woman, on his part there is no understanding, respect, love for her. Many representatives strong half of mankind take their girls/wives for granted, get used to their attention and care, stop noticing their virtues, transferring them to the category of ordinary human qualities.
While every woman, regardless of age, life experience, the profession wants to be not just in demand, but strives to be one of a kind, unique, and ... appreciated.
If from the side of her boyfriend or husband she does not receive the expected “reward” - praise, compliments, attention and reciprocal care, then it is likely that sooner or later she will try to compensate for this lack in relations with another man.
The first reason is partially echoed by another: the woman's desire for some kind of self-affirmation, getting a "sip of freedom."
This may be due to the fact that she is too "dissolved" in relationships, "sacrifices" her time, health in the interests of a man, and then gets tired of being "in the shadows", "tearing" and in an effort to escape from vicious circle"comes to change."
Also, this reason is characteristic of those ladies who are under total control from the partner: he is jealous, systematically checks her, often comes up with reasons to find fault and convict of treason.
Such an attitude towards a woman is not a prevention of adultery, but on the contrary, it provokes their appearance. AT this case female adultery is a protest, a speech against the current situation, an attempt to break off relationships that oppress her inner self.
Sadly, but it is worth recognizing that at present one of the reasons for adultery by women has become ... money.
And to be more precise - their number. Unfortunately, many of the fair sex have become mercantile and are looking for in their companions not so much "men" as sponsors - those who can not only provide a decent standard of living, but will fulfill almost any desire related to their material needs.
And, if the current partner does not “reach the bar” in this direction, the mercantile young lady can simultaneously look for someone who will “make it”. This is how wealthy lovers appear, who in rare cases become life partners.
Another reason for female infidelity (however, for men too) is the lack of novelty in relationships and emotional stagnation. Relationships must develop. If this happens periodically or regularly, then most likely this union will be strong and reliable. Until development continues.
As soon as one of the parties (or both) stops working on the relationship, it will begin to fade. Their content side will more and more resemble a habit, attachment, and the relationship itself can become an unpleasant burden.
In an effort to diversify them, not everyone is able to use highly moral means and methods. Very often, people follow the "path of least resistance", namely, they cheat on regular partners, trying to add a "zest" to the existing relationship at the expense of new ones.
Resentment, frequent quarrels and conflicts can "kill" a woman's love for a man. Being under such emotional pressure, in constant stress and daily expectation of confrontation in a relationship, a partner can commit adultery.
The desire to receive positive emotions, a charge of joy (albeit temporary) - in this case comes to the fore.
Some women are capable of cheating "in revenge" for the betrayal of a loved one. In this case, it doesn’t matter to them who it will happen to and how, the very essence matters - to avenge the pain, insult, humiliation that she experienced.
Among the less common causes of female infidelity, there are still "accident" and betrayal "for the company." It can sound anything: stupid, ridiculous and irresponsible, but, nevertheless, it has a place to be.
Perhaps this happens due to some infantilism, an unformed sense of responsibility for actions, due to carelessness, in the absence of love for a permanent partner. Most often, a casual relationship is based on strong physical excitement, which overshadows life principles.
And, finally, I would like to mention one more reason for cheating, which mainly concerns young and / or inexperienced young ladies. Often young girls they cheat on guys if this is their first relationship experience.
The motive for betrayal in this case is a comparison of the physical qualities of partners and their attitude towards her: who and how much time, attention, how often she gives gifts (and whether she does at all), and so on.
In this case, for a girl, cheating is a kind of “tool for knowing” herself in a relationship with a guy and guys in a relationship with her, as well as an attempt to form and search for an “ideal model” of relationships.
We have seen that there are many reasons for female infidelity. They can be neglected or ignored. They can be considered ridiculous excuses for failure or inferiority.
But, if you do not take them into account, then you can encounter a certain "déjà vu" - repeated betrayals of the same companion, or betrayals of different partners in future relationships.
Of course, these wishes are not an absolute guarantee of "prevention" of female infidelity. As, in general, and any others: you are responsible for yourself and your actions, but not for the actions of another person.
The question of forgiveness of betrayal, it seems, should be attributed to rhetorical. It's more a question of your own attitude towards similar situations, a matter of morality and human values.
Despite the significance of most of the named causes of female infidelity, the main thing does not change - their essence. And, in fact, this is nothing more than a betrayal of trust and feelings. Change is a line that should not be crossed. Neither men nor women.
Decency, adherence to principles, upbringing - this is what should act as a certain barrier to any betrayal. Whatever the dissatisfaction in the relationship - everything is solved. In them or outside of them (here “outside” means the break and non-resumption of relations with the former). A person who values loyalty and reliability is unlikely to be able to forgive betrayal.
Of course, religion, some other beliefs can induce forgiveness, give inner strength to him. But only a specific man in a specific situation can decide this. At the same time, you need to take into account and weigh how strong the desire to forgive is, whether there is an ability to do it.
May occur global issue: is it worth it, in principle, to forgive? A possible answer can be reduced to the following: you need to forgive, if only in order not to dwell on the pain caused, and give yourself the opportunity to move on. But with or without this woman - this is, as they say, a completely different story.
