This question is often asked by men. They are surprised by this desperate female desire to go down the aisle.
It would seem that other times have come. The minds of modern men and women are dominated by high technology, the desire to know the subtle matters of their own ego, and finally, the unrestrained heights of career growth ...
Women don't worse than men planning their fashionable life-existence. This includes: getting an up-to-date education, traveling around exotic countries, attending breathing yoga classes and much more. They also have a lot of abstract interests that do not portend any naphthalene requests.
No technical progress could eradicate the desire for a family from the female sex.
And suddenly, in the middle of all this highly intellectual expanse of "Boomz!" and a woman's cry: "I want to get married !!!"
Yes, in the life of every girl or woman there comes a moment when she once, on her way to work, sees a couple with a baby in a stroller ...
She stops as if struck by thunder, it becomes difficult for her to breathe, a treacherous lump rolls up in her throat and a clear thought arises in her head: “This is what I want.”
Looking back at her recent past, everything seems unimportant and insignificant to her. Success in work, a car earned with sweat and blood, travels to distant foreign countries, sapphires and diamonds bought with pride - all this turns out to be nonsense compared to the fact that she wants to become a mother and wife.
No technical progress, no emancipation could eradicate from the female sex the desire to create a family hearth, embedded in our genes hundreds of thousands of years ago.
Women's nature is designed to give love. This is a physiological need to hug and kiss. This is a genetic thirst to take care, to bother, to warm their loved ones. And thus, experience happiness itself.
All together this is combined into a simple phrase: "The girl wants to get married."
This is a wild animal desire to press a child to the heart. It is inexplicable, beyond reasonable control. This is what we, women, are given at the level of instincts.
This is maternal instinct.
It's hard for men to understand. At the same natural level, they do not experience even a thousandth of this female need to have a child.
And this is the answer to the question: "Why do women want to get married"
The men are shocked. It smacks of mothballs, it's "married." The trend is cohabitation, erroneously called “civil marriage” (civil marriage is an official marriage registered at the registry office), but in fact it is cohabitation. This is modern, relevant, does not contradict the craving of individuals in personal freedom.
And here lies one funny or sad contradiction. At the last census, it turned out that in our country married women more than married men. Let me, let me, how can this be? Explain!
The explanation is simple. This is where the deception of “civil” marriage is hiding.
Women living in such a union consider themselves married, but men do not! They consider themselves free, because officially they are not married!
Men secured a firm opinion that "a good deed will not be called marriage." Among them there is a craze for frivolous relationships, a desperate avoidance of serious relationships.
Men are almost openly playing against marriage and family. To drag them into a cell of society becomes a real art. A rare male specimen is able to get to the registry office.
I have always been incomprehensible to men's excuses on this topic: “We are doing well anyway. Nothing will change from the official press.”
Then why not just do it for the sake of your woman, if she cares? If it doesn't matter to you, go ahead and just do it for her.
But no. Men understand the importance of an official piece of paper.
Notice that for some reason these same men have all the other necessary official papers for life: a passport, a military ID, work book. They are not afraid of the health and pension insurance card. But for some reason, the square stamp of the registry office on one of the pages of the passport scares me.
I sincerely believe that men should officially marry those women with whom they live. This is a normal, honest act.
This is especially true for long-term residence. I have seen many such couples.
The guy "fucked" the girl for more than five years. He received all the benefits from this cozy and comfortable union, encouraged his girlfriend. She spent her years and feelings on him, waiting for him to “ripen”. Suddenly everything ended, he went to another and hastily married! So, he was ready, but did not want to.
Such cases are all over the place. Sometimes a long cohabitation still leads to marriage, but soon an official divorce follows, which suggests that there was originally a wormhole.
Life observations show that real sincere serious relationship, leading to marriage, ripen within six months - two years.
That is, if you have been dating for more than two years and they don’t propose to you, then the man does not see you as a woman of his whole life. It's painful and embarrassing. But have the courage to admit it to yourself and take a new path.
Your man will want to marry you in the very first months of dating. Perhaps at first he will not talk about it openly. But in his conversations you will hear plans for the future (at least for the next week), the frequent use of the pronoun "we". These little tips also include getting to know your family and friends. Well, if your man told you in a fit of feelings that he wants a child from you, then my congratulations! He is yours.
The highest degree of a man's trust in a woman is to make her the mother of his children. It also comes from the Paleolithic. This also smacks of patriarchy and antiquity, and this is true, for real.
Such honest relationships lead to a real marriage, it is good to create a strong family with them.
I remember the strong marriage of the great musicians Rostislav Rostropovich and Galina Vishnevskaya. They lived together a long happy married and creative life.
Rostropovich made a marriage proposal to Vishnevskaya on the fourth day of their acquaintance. Many years later, during an interview, he was asked what he thought about that hasty proposal. He replied: "I lost four whole days, damn it."
These are the words of a real honest, loving man.
I agree, stories like this are one in a million. Stories like bright comets in a dark sky. They make you dream and hope.
The famous psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky argues that in order to get married, you must stop wanting to get married.
There is ancient human wisdom here. A woman who paranoidly longs for marriage is unattractive as a person, as she is limited by her narrow matrimonial interest. She obsequiously looks at any man in the hope that he will become a groom. She agrees in advance to any compromises in order to be called a wife. She is weak and sluggish in spirit.
This is where you need to turn off your basic instinct, as Labkovsky calls. Forget about marriage as the goal of all life. And take care of yourself. Work on yourself in every sense of the word. Live full life despite his single status.
This heals and enriches the psychological background of a woman. She is transformed externally and internally, becoming more attractive to the opposite sex. Why?
She's not looking. Men feel it. They are relaxed and open, just like a woman.
So anything can happen to them. And love and marriage.
At a certain stage in life, most men are ready to start a family. I have a lot of thirty-year-old worthy guys who dream of marriage. They want to get married, have children. They are remarkably conservative in this matter.
They will never ask with a laugh: "Why do girls want to get married"
Because they know the answer. And they agree with him.
Most girls want to find their prince and marry him.
There are several very important reasons why women desire. Let's deal with them in more detail, what will marriage give them, and why is it so desirable?
Girls afraid to have children without a man. Gradually, a certain age comes and with it the maternal instinct, because in fact every woman wants to have children. But there is a fear of condemnation and the fear that she will not pull it either physically or financially, it will be very difficult for her.
Questions are constantly swirling in my head. How is it that the child will be without a father? But what about public opinion Are they always on guard? As a result, a woman marries only to have small children.
The completely opposite reason is that any a woman wants to be a "prom queen". Young girls, preparing for marriage, constantly talk only about the wedding.
In their understanding, this is a beautiful, snow-white dress, renting an expensive and cool restaurant, escort from cars latest models, the presence of a huge number of guests, and they all admire only her. The main thing is that a man tells everyone how he loves her and admires her beauty, that she is the most beautiful in the world, and it is his duty to do everything for her that is in his power and power.
And with this kind of act that the guy marries and chose her, he kind of informs the whole world: I am responsible for this girl and take her for myself, this “prom queen” is my woman! It is for the sake of these unforgettable sensations and feelings that the fair sex gets married.
A fairly common reason is it's age. Time flies, already thirty! Gradual pressure from relatives and friends begins. Constant questions read in the eyes of friends and family: "Are you dating someone?" or “Are you already married, not yet?” create a very uncomfortable situation.
In such terrible moments, a woman begins to feel inferior, even though she may be an excellent employee or just a wonderful person. After all, there are a lot of different life reasons, and not everyone will tell everyone about their problems.
Usually the answer sounds like this: “Well, it didn’t work out, and that’s it.” After such questions, a feeling of some inferiority gradually awakens, and in order to get rid of it, a woman can “jump out” to marry the first man she comes across.
The most famous reason: women marry for financial security. A huge number of girls want to have luxurious life, they want to do nothing and for a man to provide their beautiful dream (buying expensive and luxurious outfits, trips to the sea, visiting expensive salons, boutiques and restaurants, walking in nightclubs and much more).
In return, many women are ready to pay for this with devotion, being constantly nearby, trying to fulfill any wishes, both in the physical and moral sense, but only as long as he has money.
Some girls think they'll get a lot more respect that they can have more weight in society if they are married, because a married lady is a status. Certain people even believe that if a woman is free, then she cannot inspire worthy trust and respect, no matter how "little experience".
And a married girl creates stability, she walks in the right direction. life path and, accordingly, her position should be much larger. Of course, now we live in such a time that the status according to other criteria is considered. But still, many people continue to believe that it is marriage that allows you to treat a person in a completely different way.
As surprising as it may be, there are cases like this. For example, in a family there are strained relations between relatives, constant quarrels and misunderstandings.
Against this background, circumstances appear that can cause the daughter to marry that chosen one, who does not like her parents at all, does it just to spite them. This situation occurs when the excessive guardianship of adults, according to the girl, puts a lot of pressure on her. This union is unlikely to be strong, since it will be possible to annoy mom and dad unequivocally, but here's how to create against this background good family… not known.
When a woman loves to create home comfort, create family holidays, cooks great, she already family home keeper. The point is only to find your man and throw out all your efforts and love on him.
Women should remember that, putting aside all these doubts, they should only marry when they have real love and trust in each other. If a man who loves has proved not with words, but in deeds, with his actions, that you are the only and real queen for him, only then will money, status, position and, most importantly, true happiness be gained.
Do you want to propose to her but are afraid of rejection? How to determine her intentions and understand that your girlfriend does not mind walking with you to the sounds of Mendelssohn's march?
I still don't quite remember your face
But we went - bought two of some rings,
The organ played, everyone drank wine,
Your mother called me "son" for some reason.
I get it, it's a hint
I catch everything on the fly
But it's not clear what exactly you mean?
Song "What did you mean" Kortnev Alexey
The leader of the "Accident" group Alexei Kortnev in his song "What did you mean" for a long time could not understand what the girl wanted from him until he was under the crown, and soon in heaven. We doubt that your girlfriend wants to send you to the forefathers, but that she wants to get married is quite possible. But she will remain silent about it until the end, and you remain in the dark.
Are you sure that she loves you, but not sure that she wants to stay with you for life? And you want to propose to her, but you're afraid of rejection? Despite the power of love and gradually plunging into a relationship with a girl, you can not notice the main thing. Perhaps while you were maturing mentally and physically for something more serious, she is already ready to go all out and agree to your proposal. How to understand that your girlfriend wants to get married, but so far she is silent about it.!
Signs that she wants to get married
1. Talk about children
She talks or talks about children when she sees them on the street and just for no reason. Perhaps she is discussing who your common children would look like. She loves to lisp with your nephews, smiles and "flirts" with unfamiliar kids. By this, the girl shows that she is ripe for a more serious relationship, ready to become a mother and sees you as their father.
2. Intervention in life
The girl interferes in your life too zealously. She wants to know where you are, how you are and who you are with. All yours everyday life becomes a zone of her interests, and she tries to be there all the time. She helps you choose a suit or pick up something else in the store.
Sometimes a girl tries to make you interfere in her life. She invites you to choose her dress for the evening, determine her perfume scent or what she should wear to work/school/outing. It adapts to you and shows your unity. So the girl shows that although you are not a family in fact, you do everything as married people.
3. Infusion into the family
The girl wants to communicate with your parents, brothers, sisters and other 1001 relatives. She tries to please all your relatives, even those whom you can’t stand. The same goes for her parents, whom you visit regularly. You and your family spend holidays and buy gifts for them. It's like preparing yourself to be your wife and you to be your future husband.
4. Discussing the future
The girl discusses holidays, the future, finances, housing problems and other issues that are very long in time. By this, she confirms your suspicions of her intention to be with you longer than all former passions.
5. Acts like a wife
She calls you jokingly: "My husband." But you don't believe it's just that, do you? Your lifestyle and behavior are no different from a couple of newlyweds.
6. Joint life
The girl has long shared with you not only the bed, but also the shower, the kitchen and the sofa. Perhaps this is how women “dig in” on the territory of men? According to studies, among couples living together, only 20% of men consider themselves almost married, but among women this number is 80%.
7. She hints at her weakness
The girl speaks in half hints and hints at her complete surrender, readiness to accept a marriage proposal and raise all flags, including her underwear.
If all 7 signs that she wants to get married matched, then this is the Joker! If you wanted to propose to her, but were afraid, then put aside your doubts! She is unlikely to run away from the wedding, as Julia Roberts in the American comedy Runaway Bride.
She probably fucking wants to bear your last name, raise your children and spend your whole life together. later life. Propose to her, it's not so scary, just a few words. But you should not propose to her, as the proud Irish did in ancient times: “Washing is sad if there is no men's shirts or "Live in my heart and pay no rent." Tell a girl one of these:
Marry me
Will you marry me?
I offer you my hand and heart
Be my wife
Now, as an honest man, I am obliged to marry you.
If a girl doesn't understand you, try saying:
Will you marry me? (Belarusian)
Will you marry me? (Ukrainian)
Sa minuga abielluda? (Estonian)
Will you merry me? (English)
Veux-tu m'epouser? (to a Frenchwoman)
Lo sporete? (Italian)
Te Casas Conmigo? (Spanish)
Willst du mich heiraten? (to a German woman) or you can say: Hande hoch!, the girl will also react only a little differently.
When you say this to her, look at her and don't mumble. Speak confidently and adamantly, like Stirlitz!
And remember, once every four years on the feast of St. Oswald, February 29, women themselves can make a marriage proposal to a man. And especially active and modern girls can propose to a man on February 28, as well as on any other day. Get ahead of her, bro, especially if she's the one!
Here are 25 proposal ideas for you and then don't say we don't care about you bro.
It's married. Formulating your “social request” without taking into account feelings, attachments and other circumstances. That is, the charmers want to marry, and not love, not a reliable person nearby, not a wonderful and faithful sexual partner for many years, finally! Not the one with whom the financial aspects of life will become more stable, with whom there will be more confidence in tomorrow. Even smart, intelligent people quite often dream of something other than a prestigious education, an enviable career, self-realization in the profession and dizzying personal achievements. When XXI gives so many opportunities, intoxicates with so many temptations and beckons with so many prospects that only 200-300 years ago women could not even dream of, why is marriage still almost a fixed idea for carriers of two "X" sex chromosomes?
From the point of view of adherents of the teachings of the eminent Swiss psychiatrist Carl Gustav Jung, similar situation took shape not even for years, but for centuries, during which the position of women, disadvantaged in civil rights remained invisible. In fact, from the lessons of history, we know that the ladies had to defend not only their suffrage in difficult social “battles”. Enough for a long time in European countries the bourgeois-petty-bourgeois formula of life dominated, known as the rule of three "K" (German Kirche, Küche, Kinder - church, kitchen, children). However, in many low-income families, one worker - a spouse, could not provide for the whole family. After the beautiful humanity has defended its right to work, long time, women working in similar positions received significantly lower pay compared to men. At the same time, many professions remained fundamentally inaccessible to women.
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In many countries, the first laws to protect animals from cruelty were enacted before laws protecting women from domestic violence. In family law, for a long time, the advantage remained with stronger half. For example, in the event of the death of the head of the family, most of the inheritance could go not to the widow and daughters, but to a distant male relative. AT rare cases divorce, even with proven adultery of the husband or other fault of the spouse, most of the joint property departed to the culprit of the collapse of the family. While a woman could only count on a minimum content.
In Great Britain right up to the beginning of the 20th century, there was a custom described both in official sources and in literary works: from the end of the 17th century, a man had the right to sell his wife. To do this, on certain days, he had to lead her on a leash attached to her waist, or even around her neck, to the local market where the auction was held. As in any other auction, the woman was given to the highest bidder.
However, the fate of an unmarried woman turned out to be much more unenviable. The mere fact that in English language the word "spinster", used in official documents to refer to all unmarried sexually mature women, regardless of age, has a second meaning of "old maid", speaks for itself.
Even most children's stories reflect the same trend. They have main character: Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Princess Nesmeyana, Vasilisa the Wise or Princess Swan. Each of the girls necessarily has its own difficulties: an evil stepmother; poisoned spindle; a spell that turned her into a swan or even a frog; depression that suffocates a girl in her parents' house, or even an evil wizard, Koschey, Serpent Gorynych, or any other embodiment of world evil. And only a man can save the poor thing. Tsarevich Elisey, a handsome prince, an enchanted Miracle Yudo, or, at worst, Ivan the Fool. According to the law of the genre, he will save the young lady from imprisonment, remove the spell, awaken with a kiss, punish the anti-heroes, but most importantly, he will come and be sure to marry her! Our ancestors, composing legends and tales, only saw the possible life of a woman, for whom, in most cases, a different development of events meant either to perish in poverty, or to be a host to relatives, or even worse - to earn a mug of ale with a piece of bread. and lodging for the night with your body. And thus, from childhood, stereotypes about marriage eat into our consciousness along with the rest of the collective unconscious. All other reasons, as a rule, only fall on fertile ground.
What reasons for wanting to get married are indicated by beautiful ladies themselves?
1. Desire to start your own family. Most of the girls who grew up in a complete family, especially if the relationship in this family between parents were partnership, trusting, warm, harmonious, dream of creating the same strong and healthy unit of society in their mature life. Especially when watching their peers from single-parent families grow up and develop. Often, with a tenacious eye, noticing that girls raised by single mothers, as a rule, are less able to create a full-fledged family in the future. Since, thanks to many years of observation, models inherit social behavior their mothers.
2. Fear of being alone , more often inherent in no longer young ladies, but ladies closer to 30 years old, and over thirty. According to psychologists, these are women who have spent the first two decades of their conscious life on education, career and the formation of their own personality. Having become independent and self-sufficient, still young but no longer young, one day they notice that around them there are many younger, fresher-looking, more lively and successful rivals, the number of which is increasing. While the number of promising, interesting, decent, worthy and at the same time free men is drastically decreasing. And more and more often a woman comes to mind, albeit a cynical, but well-aimed saying, according to which “good males are taken apart as puppies.”
3. Mom and dad want grandchildren (grandparents dream of having time to babysit their great-grandchildren) . According to psychotherapists, the desire of parents and other relatives to “marry” adult children, reinforcing motivation with the need for timely childbearing often becomes a trigger mechanism that triggers own wish women ring the chosen one. However, the representative of the weaker half of humanity is not always completely ready for family life and even more so for motherhood.
4. Religious beliefs and strict upbringing nowadays they do not often become a trigger for creating a family. However, there is a tendency towards an increase in the number of young people who do not want to "live in sin" without registering an official civil marriage and church wedding.
5. All my friends, girlfriends and acquaintances, including even those who are younger than me, are already married. Some already twice . Fortunately or unfortunately, the notorious herd feeling went to man from less developed, but socialized animals. The desire for everything to be “like with people”, “like with decent people”, is indestructible in the minds of many, even very not stupid, educated women and girls different ages. Constant gossip and gossip, questions of varying degrees of delicacy, the main meaning of which boils down to whether she got married, and if not yet, when she plans, and if she plans, then why not yet, can cause a violent psychological reaction from anyone. Moreover, they are asked by everyone: both classmates / classmates / former colleagues, and school teachers who accidentally met on the street, neighbors, mother's friends and completely familiar people.
6. Together it will be easier financially . So, most often they argue, potential brides who have to not only earn their own living, but also rent an apartment. At the same time, it is not necessary we are talking about a prudent predator who dreams of catching a billionaire in her snares and making him a millionaire. The average representatives of the middle class, when talking about financial prospects, rely on the more likely capture of a titmouse in their hands. That is, they see as an ideal contender for their own hand and hearts the same representative of the middle class, with stable income, preferably with your own car and possibly without housing problems. Otherwise, splitting the cost of rent for two people already makes planning much easier. family budget. Rationalism and nothing else.
7. I want a holiday that would be remembered for a lifetime! It's no secret that many girls, from childhood, dream of just this: a chic White dress to be certainly better than everyone else, a white limousine, an enchanting feast, gorgeous professional photos, and then a trip to a tropical island, where the ceremony will be repeated on the seashore, against the backdrop of white sand, palm trees and thickets of exotic flowers. Unfortunately, modern research do not give an exact answer on how much the level of costs for organizing a wedding correlates with the duration of the marriage. According to some data, no connection was found. Other researchers note that marriages break up more often and faster, just after magnificent celebrations, referring to the fact that an alliance concluded in order to show off in front of relatives and friends cannot be strong and long-term.
8. Issues of childbearing and law . This category combines a group of causes. Often a woman wants to get married solely because she wants to have children from her life partner. Feels ready to be a mother. Or she is simply tired of contraceptive problems, wants to pay less attention to this issue, living by the principle “if I don’t get pregnant, it’s good, if the pregnancy takes place, even better.” Or, the pregnancy has already taken place, and the expectant mother organizes what is called “marriage in pursuit” in psychology. Most lovely ladies want to formalize their relationship not so much because of the status of a husband wife and a legitimate child, but because of the lack of a legal education, believing that a child is better protected socially by law if family relationships his parents are formalized.
9. Spouse Status. Remember the episode from the well-known film by Eldar Ryazanov "Garage"? It would seem that times pass, customs change. But even in the 21st century, many women can easily be offended by the position of a “pretty lover”, while they want to be a legal wife, “before God and people.”
10. Ownership . In the minds of many girls, the ring on the finger and the stamp in the passport are a sign of equality of loyalty and belonging to each other. The very tradition of wearing wedding ring is rooted in a legend according to which a ring worn on the ring finger closes some energy channels. Which, in turn, on the one hand, prevents connections on the side, on the other hand, warms up sensual passion in the family bed. The ring, thus, becomes a talisman of the couple's family happiness, many traditions and signs are associated with it. A woman may not believe in mysticism, superstition and prejudice, but at the level of the ancient mechanisms of the subconscious, she continues to want to ring her lover, so to speak, mark her territory, declare "he is mine." And now he won't run away from me. See his ring? Hands off my man! At the same time, at the level of conscious neurophysiology, a lady can perfectly understand that the level of inner freedom, culture of relationships, loyalty and devotion to each other is in no way connected with going to the registry office.
11. I just want to get married . A woman may want to marry for one, several, or even all reasons at once. And do not realize the reasons for your desire. For her, desire overshadows its origins. And does a woman need to know the reason why she seeks to start a family?
If we ignore the dismissive jokes and tuned feminist reasoning, as well as the sarcastic arguments of ladies who have never married and are supposedly satisfied with their fate, we can conclude that a woman’s desire to start a family and get married is not the funniest, vulgar, stupid , irrational or harmful.
Another thing is that the beautiful half of humanity should avoid the substitution of concepts, and not confuse the official registration of relations with the actual relationship, family values, fidelity, mutual support, understanding and respect for each other, the desire to conduct a joint household, sharing all daily joys, difficulties and responsibilities for two.
After all, according to psychologists, most desires come true, you just need to clearly understand what you really want.
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I have in this moment very a difficult situation. I am 21 years old, I am in my last year at the university, like my girlfriend. And she really wants to get married right after graduation. But, in fact, we live separately, parents help, and not really with work in our city. And I do not think that this is a reasonable decision, given that I am still in the army. Please tell me how to make a girl think that this is an absurd idea and you need to wait?
Brother, friend, dude, buddy, we feel sorry for you, because you are in a difficult situation if your chosen one really insists on getting married. But in this matter, believe the ruined fates of millions of men (and women too), you must stand your ground. No, we are not marching against marriage per se, although there are many reasons for this. You just always need to think first, and only then do, since you are. Such a strategy of life is now rare. Do those couples who foolishly got engaged and now just tolerate each other live happily ever after? The answer, I think, can be left unanswered. But a Russian person can endure for decades, remaining absolutely unhappy. A bad quality that is justified by all sorts of "everyone does it that way."
Unfortunately, your rational arguments, of which there are enough, (lack of work, army, lack of housing) may not solve the problem. And to move in together, to live together, when you have no financial back-up plan, and indeed a foundation under your feet, is wildly stupid. Well, you two will live in a rented apartment on the money of your parents for six months, a year, then what? Work, judging by the crisis, is no longer becoming, and marriage ties are unlikely to contribute to career growth.
And, indeed, the situation is difficult. It is unlikely that your girlfriend will listen to the voice of reason, but we recommend trying your luck again, because we have almost no other options. Only this time try to look into the near future, at your life and her life. Your girlfriend needs some confidence in you, and you're also dumping into the army, so she panics, trying to fix the relationship with marriage. Therefore, make a plan for the next five years, in which thoughts about a career, relationships with a friend will be painted. Think about this whole thing, because you almost have a tower, and dreams for sure. Squeeze all the writing into a few points that will solve the main problems that prevent you from going to the wedding epic, namely: how to find money, where to live, what should I do? Be more thorough in this matter and eventually explain all this to your girlfriend. Do not persuade her, do not ask her to wait, but simply confront the fact that everything must be planned in advance, resorting to rationalism, and rationalism will never be on the side of early marriages, although in them.
1. Show her that you can be relied upon. If there is any problem, then solve it, help more often, lend a shoulder when necessary. Trite, but even simple help, support adds points to you.
2. You are a part of her life, which means that she will not go anywhere from you. Try to convince your friend that you do not need papers that testify not about feelings, but about the transfer of these very feelings into the hands of the state.
3. - this, of course, is good, romantic and beautiful, but not if you have neither a home, nor a job, nor money for colorful honeymoon trip. The atmosphere decides everything, and without it everything will be a gray formality. If she wants what we see in Hollywood movies, then she will have to wait. Let him understand it.
