First, understand for yourself that a woman who flirts with your spouse cannot be called a friend. Such a woman can be a work colleague, a friend, a former classmate, in general, anyone, but not a friend. In order to put everything in its place, you can invite your opponent to a cafe and while you drink coffee, talk frankly with her. But this option should be used if the opponent is one of the close, intimate friends. A frank conversation with a friend in this case will help you either dispel your suspicions or confirm. Perhaps, after a frank conversation, a friend will draw conclusions and wish to maintain your friendship. However, this option can only be used if there is really a real friendship between you.
But most often there is a different situation: your mutual friend or acquaintance is flirting with your spouse. In this case, you can talk with the spouse himself, but only if between you trusting relationship and tell him what's bothering you. Often in a family where, in addition to marital ties, friendships also reign between spouses, such problems are solved quite easily. If the husband really has someone and he has certain feelings for her, then he will not lie to you because of sincere respect for you. But if he has someone and he does not feel anything for her, then you can decide together your further actions.
Well, if you love your husband and do not dare to talk to him about your suspicions, then what is left to do? Wait and follow developments. In the event that you have no doubt that a friend is flirting with your spouse, then limit communication with her at home. But it is better, of course, to nullify any communication with such a friend. If the opponent began to openly flirt with your spouse in front of your eyes, then in no case arrange “face-to-face confrontations” and / or scandals, such a reaction of yours may increase the opponent’s desire to beat off your spouse.
Remember that it is easier to prevent a problem than to eliminate the consequences that it will entail. So try not to get too close to your girlfriends. Girlfriends do not have to tell in detail your life together with your husband. Friendship is certainly good, but even between close friends there must be a certain distance.
If your girlfriend openly flirts with your spouse, then do everything so that your husband pays his attention to you and then he will not have time to pay attention to your girlfriend's crafts. Sometimes if you say to a man: “I noticed that Ira is watching you all the time, is not indifferent to you, and you, I noticed, reciprocate. Well, if you decide to link your fate with her, then I will not hold you! And men, as you know, love forbidden fruits. Therefore, after such a direct “recommendation”, most likely the husband will lose all interest in the rival’s flirting.
But be that as it may, in each specific situation it is necessary to act according to the circumstances, because there are simply no “recipes” that would be suitable for each situation.
In innocent flirting, of course, there is nothing to worry about if this flirting does not develop beyond the permissible. After all, you must have flirted at least once in your life with one of your spouse's employees, for example, at a New Year's corporate evening. This could be the reason why he no longer takes you to his friends' corporate meetings. If so, then your spouse is wise, since he did not call a potential rival for a conversation, but simply surrounded you with his attention and sincere care and made sure that you would not meet with a potential rival again. Why don't you do the same.
You met the guy of your dreams and you are finally together. Your wishes have come true and you are in seventh heaven with happiness. But here's the problem: you begin to notice that your lover is looking at others, and don't know what to do if a guy flirts with other girls?
jealousy like terrible creature eats to break out. And as soon as she breaks out, quarrels, insults and so on will begin. Believe me, it will not lead to anything good. Everything can end quickly and not in your favor. How to behave in such moments and not harm your relationship. Let's find out.
1. If the guy started flirting with other girls , understand at first in your attitudes or relations. Do you trust your partner 100%. It is impossible to tell him directly in his face that you suspect him of intentions to cheat on you, because this can seriously hurt his soul. Because if it turns out that flirting is just a game he started to see your reaction, and you react violently, then he will feel your distrust of him. And this is the first step to the fact that something can seriously break in your relationship.
2. What to do if a guy always flirts with other girls? The problem may not be in the partner, but in you and your complexes. You trust your MCH, but you don't trust all the women who surround him all the time. You always feel like they're just waiting for an opportunity to get him to leave you and stay with them. But maybe you're setting yourself up so negatively. In fact, it's just your worst imagination. If you value yourself, then you will never doubt that you are worthy of your beloved and that he does not need anyone except you. You might be surprised how many temptations a loving person can resist.
3. Instead of being jealous and resentful of his flirting with others girls in real life or in in social networks you better take care of yourself. Buy new sexy clothes, visit the beautician and hairdresser, improve your appearance and well-being. Transfer his attention to yourself, and not to other women.
4. And do not try to forbid him to communicate with other girls. This may cause resentment on his part. And he will do it even more to harm you. You should not infringe on the rights of another person and give a little freedom to your partner. The more you try to keep him on a short leash, the more he will move away from you.
5. No need to take revenge on him . Especially start flirting with other guys, or with his friends. You will only make things worse for yourself. Indeed, in the company of friends, his girlfriend should always look stunning and belong only to him. And if you start behaving frivolously with others, you will hurt his pride very much, trample him into the dirt in front of your friends, lower his self-esteem and thereby bring your relationship nowhere.
6. What to do if a guy flirts with other girls on social networks? No need to throw tantrums and make scandals! Men really do not like tantrums, showdowns of relationships and constant snot. Always be cheerful and do not show that it hurt you a lot. It’s better to calmly ask who the girl with whom he communicates so fiercely and why you don’t know her yet. Maybe this is just his good friend with early childhood with whom he was very friendly without knowing you. It’s better to sort things out first, and not to make a fuss.
Prepare the guy in advance for the conversation. He needs to know that you want to talk about relationships. If he understands what will be discussed, he will have time to prepare for the conversation, so that you will not scare him with suddenness. Also, it will be easier to choose right time for a conversation.
Talk about your emotions. Start a conversation with what you see and how you feel about it. In this way, you will help the guy understand the reason for your feelings and emotions. You don't have to blame him right away, otherwise the guy will take a defensive stance. Focus on what you are feeling.
Explain the reason for your emotions. You may know why flirting affects you so much. You may have had a boyfriend in the past who eventually left for another girl he flirted with. Therefore, when your boyfriend flirts with someone, you are afraid that he will leave you for another girl.
Give the guy a chance to speak. Now that you've started this conversation and explained how you feel, give the guy a chance to speak up. For example, he may not even realize that he is responding to flirting, he may not know that it upsets you. Maybe he was just trying to be polite.
Discuss jealousy. Often flirting is closely related to jealousy. Maybe the guy is flirting on purpose to make you jealous. Maybe you take everything too close to your heart, because you are very sensitive and jealous. Talk about it to see if jealousy plays a role in this situation.
Find a solution to the problem. After you have discussed your feelings and relationships, talk about what can be done. It may be worth making a compromise, finding a solution that will be optimal for both of you, so that the interests of each of you are maximally satisfied.
The situation is far from rare and truly painful. What to do if a friend or girlfriend starts flirting with your partner? To break without looking friendly relations with the person to whom they are attached? Close your eyes and just trust your partner? Psychotherapist Joanna Cocker answers.
I trust him, he never gave a reason to doubt him. And yet I can't help but watch him. I involuntarily watch to see if he is paying her attention in return. Otherwise, she is a good friend, and I would like to keep our friendship. But I worry that she will cross the line, and then the conflict is inevitable.
In my practice, I have come across such situations many times. It seems that your girlfriend is a predator. Such people are attracted to challenges - for example, stealing a partner from someone.
It is possible that jealousy and the possessive instinct of your girlfriend in relation to you, and not to your husband, are manifested here. Perhaps your happy marriage confuses her, makes her feel rejected. If so, then that's her problem, not yours. Maybe she also wants to have at least something of what you have. Perhaps she unconsciously wants to destroy your relationship with her husband in order to restore the previous relationship with you.
In any relationship, it is important to respect boundaries, and in this case your boundaries have clearly been violated
If you are really important to her, she will be able to accept it. If a friend does not show understanding or will deny everything, you will have to think about what to do next. Remember: a true friend cannot hurt you.
In any relationship, it is important to respect the boundaries, and in this case, your boundaries were clearly violated. We all want to enjoy our lives. But this does not mean that we have the right to achieve this at any cost.
Source: The Guardian.
The Guardian has received an anonymous letter in which a woman confesses to her husband that she knows about the betrayal.
Profanity, love of black humor and cats? by what signs can one distinguish the owners of a high IQ and what are the nuances here.
Recently, I received a whole series of letters [as they conspired] with questions about how to deal with jealousy. But this is not just jealousy for no reason or as a result of provocations from a man. Women asked for advice in a difficult situation, when, being in the company of a beloved man, they are faced with open flirting from other women.
What to do if the fair sex shows interest in your companion, while not embarrassing YOU at all? Other women flirt with my man- that's what we'll talk about.
If other women show interest in your man, this is a reason to rejoice. It sounds strange, but there is even such a saying: "Why do I need someone who no one needs." Most likely, you can be proud of him for any of his merits, achievements.
Another thing is if he behaves like an unscrupulous tempter, seduces women, as if he is a hero-lover of Casanova .. In this case, think about whether you need such a man and what the relationship with him will lead to. If necessary, prepare yourself to put up with the circumstances and drink a sedative in the hope that "he will definitely change."
Consider the example of one of my clients. A woman and her companion come to a restaurant for her friend's anniversary. For obvious reasons, there are many unmarried ladies who, in a light alcoholic oblivion, begin to cutely “chirp” with a handsome man who suddenly appeared in their field of vision.
Do I need to explain that every woman wants love and tenderness. We will not condemn them for such a natural and inherent desire in female nature. But flirting with a man in the company of his own woman is disrespectful and ugly. And it’s easy for me to imagine how such a situation can shock you and cause bewilderment: “And how should I react to this ?!”.
I suppose you want to know about the methods by which you can get rid of momentary jealousy, and defuse this "bomb in a skirt" (this expression does not aim to offend someone)?
Cheating is always a shock for every woman. Resentment and anger at the husband who committed such a betrayal, self-flagellation, confusion and uncertainty in tomorrow– all these feelings struggle in the soul at the same time. And exits from similar situation there may be many. But what if the betrayal as such has not yet happened? If you only noticed the first signs of flirting, and the situation is complicated by the fact that your girlfriend is flirting with your husband?
First you need to clearly understand that a woman who allows herself to flirt with your husband can hardly be called a friend. This is a friend, a work colleague, a former classmate - in general, anyone, just not a friend. To dot the i’s, invite your rival for a cup of tea at the nearest cafe and talk frankly with her. Here we are talking only about the situation if you yourself refer this lady to the category of your close, intimate friends. Then, perhaps, such a conversation will really help clarify the situation: either you will understand that your suspicions were groundless, or your friend will draw the appropriate conclusions and, for her part, will try to maintain your friendship. As already mentioned, this scenario is rather an exception, it is possible only when it comes to true friendship.
Much more often, you may encounter another situation: your mutual friend or friend is flirting with your husband. If you have a trusting relationship with your spouse, then you can just talk to him, tell him about what is bothering you. Rest assured, in a family where the husband and wife are, among other things, also friends, it will not be difficult to solve such a problem. If there really is something between a husband and a girlfriend, then your man will not lie to you, because he simply sincerely respects you. If your husband does not have the slightest interest in this lady, then together you can decide what to do next.
Well, the third option: you love your husband very much, and he loves you too, but for one reason or another you do not dare to talk about painful things with him. What remains? Watch developments. If you are sure that your friend is openly flirting with your man, try to communicate with her exclusively outside your own family. And it would be even better to gradually nullify any relationship with this person. Do not make scandals and “face-to-face confrontations” if your rival decides to openly flirt, and even in your presence, such a reaction will only increase her desire to take your husband away from you.
Any problem is easier to prevent than to eliminate its consequences. Try not to get too close to your girlfriends. In the sense that they do not need to know all the details of your relationship with your husband life together. Friendship is wonderful, but a certain distance must remain between friends. If you notice that a friend is flirting with your husband, try to get him to pay as much attention to you as possible. Then your spouse will have neither the time nor the desire to respond to the messages of a friend. Sometimes it’s enough for a man to say: “I noticed that Lenochka is not indifferent to you, and you show her special signs of attention. Well, if you feel better with her, then I won’t keep you!” Men, like children, prefer forbidden fruits. After you yourself recommend that he pay attention to Lenochka, it is quite possible that your husband will lose all desire to respond to her advances, he will simply become bored.
In any case, there are no universal recipes; in a particular situation, each woman acts according to circumstances. After all, there is nothing terrible in innocent flirting, if it does not involve any continuation. Admit it to yourself, did you also allow yourself to smile once again at one of your husband's colleagues at the last New Year's corporate evening? By the way, perhaps that is why there were no more offers to spend time in the company of his friends from her husband over the past year. Maybe your man turned out to be wiser than you: he did not challenge a potential opponent to a duel, he simply made sure that you would not meet with him again, and he, in turn, surrounded you with sincere care and attention.
Cheating for a woman has always been and remains a shock. Having learned about the betrayal of her husband, in the soul of a woman, such feelings as anger and resentment against her husband, uncertainty in the future and confusion, self-flagellation simultaneously struggle. There are several ways to get out of this situation. But if betrayal as such has not happened yet, what then? What if the first signs of flirting only began to appear? What if an unpleasant fact was discovered - a friend is flirting with my man?
First, understand for yourself that a woman who flirts with your spouse cannot be called a friend. Such a woman can be a work colleague, a friend, a former classmate, in general, anyone, but not a friend. In order to put everything in its place, you can invite your opponent to a cafe and while you drink coffee, talk frankly with her. But this option should be used if the opponent is one of the close, intimate friends. A frank conversation with a friend in this case will help you either dispel your suspicions or confirm. Perhaps, after a frank conversation, a friend will draw conclusions and wish to maintain your friendship. However, this option can only be used if there is really a real friendship between you.
But most often there is a different situation: your mutual friend or acquaintance is flirting with your spouse. In this case, you can talk to the spouse himself, but only if there is a trusting relationship between you and tell him what is bothering you. Often in a family where, in addition to marital ties, friendships also reign between spouses, such problems are solved quite easily. If the husband really has someone and he has certain feelings for her, then he will not lie to you because of sincere respect for you. But if he has someone and he does not feel anything for her, then you can decide together your further actions.
Well, if you love your husband and do not dare to talk to him about your suspicions, then what is left to do? Wait and follow developments. In the event that you have no doubt that a friend is flirting with your spouse, then limit communication with her at home. But it is better, of course, to nullify any communication with such a friend. If the opponent began to openly flirt with your spouse in front of your eyes, then in no case arrange “face-to-face confrontations” and / or scandals, such a reaction of yours may increase the opponent’s desire to beat off your spouse.
Remember that it is easier to prevent a problem than to eliminate the consequences that it will entail. So try not to get too close to your girlfriends. Girlfriends do not have to tell in detail your life together with your husband. Friendship is certainly good, but even between close friends there must be a certain distance.
If your girlfriend openly flirts with your spouse, then do everything so that your husband pays his attention to you and then he will not have time to pay attention to your girlfriend's crafts. Sometimes if you say to a man: “I noticed that Ira is watching you all the time, is not indifferent to you, and you, I noticed, reciprocate. Well, if you decide to link your fate with her, then I will not hold you! And men, as you know, love forbidden fruits. Therefore, after such a direct “recommendation”, most likely the husband will lose all interest in the rival’s flirting.
But be that as it may, in each specific situation it is necessary to act according to the circumstances, because there are simply no “recipes” that would be suitable for each situation.
In innocent flirting, of course, there is nothing to worry about if this flirting does not develop beyond the permissible. After all, you must have flirted at least once in your life with one of your spouse's employees, for example, at a New Year's corporate evening. This could be the reason why he no longer takes you to his friends' corporate meetings. If so, then your spouse is wise, since he did not call a potential rival for a conversation, but simply surrounded you with his attention and sincere care and made sure that you would not meet with a potential rival again. Why don't you do the same.
Our grandmothers felt restless in their hearts if a pretty stranger suddenly smiled at their grandfather. Moms were alarmed when a strange woman called and said that she had a wrong number. Social networks have fallen to our lot. Who else is his friend? And why is she writing on his page? Why does he like all his posts? How to understand what this means?
“One girl who works with my husband got into the habit of posting on his Facebook page. He says that this is for work, but he does not send anything to other employees and marks only him in the photographs. It worries me, but I'm afraid to say something to him - what if he or she perceives this as stupid jealousy and a sign of self-doubt.
I trust my husband, but this girl makes me nervous. Everyone knows that he is long and firmly married, but she behaves as if she does not care. How can I understand what is happening?
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Unfortunately, no one has really developed a textbook on proper social media behavior yet. The current generation is on its toes trying to figure out the rules of etiquette associated with mobile messaging and email. Prior to this, the same problems were created by an ordinary wired telephone. In cave times, Neanderthals were jealous when other Neanderthals shared a sharpened stone with each other.
Here's what I'm getting at: I also think it's flirting. But, like all other social media activities, the reasons for this behavior are shrouded in fog. It doesn't look right, but it doesn't look particularly criminal either. In order to see what is really happening behind this fog, it is best to talk with your husband after all. No need to write anything to that girl; you do not know her. Talk to a loved one.
Don't blame him or his colleague for anything. Don't get excited. Calmly explain how you feel. Say, “Listen, I know there are no written rules on Facebook about this. But it seems to me that this is a little strange: she writes only to you and marks only you in the photo. How do you think why? Is she flirting with you? Do you think she does it without a second thought or is counting on something?
Who knows what he will answer. Maybe he's also a little embarrassed that she's behaving this way. Or maybe he didn't think about it at all. If you do not jump to conclusions and put pressure on him or blame him for something, he should understand you.
If you calmly ask a question, and the husband explodes in response, starts to be indignant, screaming, how dare you suspect him or her of something - that will be really suspicious. In this case, don't take your eyes off him.
For 6 years, we have been friends with families. Recently, I began to notice that a friend allows herself to flirt with my husband. Can I make a remark in his presence. He is not stingy with praise. She tries to show at meetings that she is better. She tries her best to show off her figure. Etc. My complexes begin, although I was always sure of my attractiveness and fidelity of my husband, now I'm starting to doubt. He probably belongs more to the type of men who themselves will not go to the brothel, and if the girl herself takes the initiative, she will not refuse. Maybe I’m already winding myself up, we have been living together for 14 years, we have two children. There was never any reason for jealousy. I think she just spits in my face and our relationship. If I tell her about it, she will still ridicule me, and once again assert herself. How to cancel a relationship? her husband good man and is also friends with my husband. What to do? Tired of swallowing.
Criticize her in front of her husband and flirt with him yourself.
Start flirting with her husband (just kidding, bad idea). Pin her, yours does not satisfy you, since you are flirting with mine?
Just talk to her alone. No joke and tough. In the forehead - if you do not cover the fountain, I will trample. And so that it is clear that your attitude is serious and you will not allow grazing in your meadows.
Do not let this house with you again, and do not go to them yourself
Somehow a girl came up to me at a party. Seized the moment to be alone and let's get tough. It turned out that she was jealous of her roommate, who was sitting next to me at the table. And I was just in this company for the first time and tried to be polite and sociable with those sitting next to me. I had to leave the guests, the lady was hysterical, the man apologized, and I realized how limitless the fantasy of fear is among people who are insecure.
*****@uy such a girlfriend, sorry for the mat. It’s already clear that she’s not a girlfriend. Stop talking to her, otherwise quarrels in your family will start soon. . Tell your girlfriend tet-a-tet that it would be the last time, that she makes some remarks in front of your husband.
We were also friends, a friend began to argue with my husband that sparks flew, but not from anger, but from flirting. I had to make quite a bit of effort to drive them away from our house (we were going to). Now we communicate only separately, I am with her, my husband is with her husband, and very rarely
Strange aunts tolerate such proshmande in the house.
Limit your relationship with her to the maximum if she criticizes you, say that no one asked her opinion or the best answer is "dear, do not be offended, but I do not consider it necessary to receive advice from someone who is not an authority for me, and this is only my husband" be the best for your man and don’t waste your energy on anger and jealousy, behave yourself
With such people it is necessary by their own methods.
Stop talking, abruptly to ignore.
If the husband asks, then say that she had the impudence and tactlessness to criticize and judge your family, home, children, your husband as clumsy, etc. But only so that the husband does not run to report to her and her husband.
I repelled one friend like that, she could jokingly get on her knees to any of the husbands of her friends, dressed defiantly frankly, quarreled with other people's husbands to attract attention. rolls, sat at the table in the lotus position, pulling did not help, she was supposedly so used to it and she was comfortable, Moreover, in the female company she behaved absolutely normal and dressed decently.
Now no one from our company keeps in touch with her. Recently I heard from friends that she is hanging around with her husband from her new girlfriend.
Stop communicating or reduce communication to a minimum. She's not your friend if she acts like that. And don't let her get close to her husband. And where is her own husband looking?!
They also came up to me like that with cockroaches, and started yelling fuck off my husband and other *****. And I thought I wonder who Her husband is and why this fool is pestering me. It turns out that's what they are, these strange aunts. in place of a friend, at the first hint, she would send an abnormal jealous woman away and would no longer communicate
Do you think there are no such women who climb to strangers man?
She is such a woman. That's what an insult, they didn’t let her friend’s husband assert herself.
Do not let her into the house and generally stop communicating with this ***
Oh, how menacing, just the Fuhrer in a skirt.
That's why I don't have any girlfriends. Women are unreliable, you always have to expect some trick from them. In fig, in fig.
Oh, how menacing, just the Fuhrer in a skirt.
Tolerate sluts in your house??
Your "girlfriend" simply asserts herself at your expense, raises her self-esteem) I had the same girlfriend, she behaved exactly like this) Besiege her in the presence of your husband, well, there you need to build on what she said and be smarter, in general, bitch) ))) and smile sweetly at the same time))))
Intuition is a built-in calculator.
Just talking to a strange man very often has a hidden coquetry, a girl sits to herself, trains on cats, and then sparks slip through.
And the other half, who knows her husband as flaky, reads them.
I met a married friend after 7 years of separation, and she suddenly began to flirt with my then friend in front of me.
And she shut up and moved away only when her husband came in.
Is that what she needed?
I immediately lost confidence in her.
I no longer have a girlfriend, why do I need traitors.
And rightly so, you can’t climb into other people’s families and other people’s men. You think that you are the smartest whips and no one sees anything.
It just seems to me that her need for sex has increased, and her husband is already just tired of her insatiability, maybe that's why she behaves like a hungry
What makes you think that this is a reality, and not an invention of the author? I gave an example of how a girl who had a fear of losing her man climbed up to me with a claim and a disassembly. Her fear painted her a picture of seduction, deliberate flirting and immorality. Although, in fact, I myself was rather a shy shy person and just tried not to sit like a gloomy mouse, but to be polite and keep the conversation going. People tend to accept their fears as the truth and believe in them. Even when objectively everything is wrong. Faced with this once, I realize that in the text of the author there is not a single fact that accurately confirms the intention of that friend. But a lot of my own fears. But all the unsubscribers here agree to believe in fear and give militant advice
Self-asserts at your expense.
It's not about a salad or a conversation, read the first comment. For example, yesterday we walked together at a friends wedding, her husband was a witness and sat at a separate table, she was opposite us, so she didn’t take her eyes off him, invited me to a slow dance (he went with me) and during fast dances curled around him, hugging his neck. She behaved a little more modestly in front of me. For example, during fast music, my husband and I were flaring up, he hugged me, suddenly she runs up from behind, as if breaking us, runs between us and starts dancing, twisting the rear bumper. I can *****, although others like me they don’t, but I don’t want to stoop to her level and I don’t like flirting with her husband. We were colleagues for 10 years and I respect him.
do you think that saying thank you to the person who offered you a salad at the table or having a conversation with him on some topic is equal to wanting to get this guy? Ordinary politeness and sociability are no longer considered? Does a husband only have the right to talk to his wife?
One of my closest friends seems to be infatuated with my husband. No, she does not openly flirt with him. Perhaps she does not even realize that she is paying too much attention to him, giggling stupidly in response to his every word, following his eyes all the time. It's hard for me to reproach her for being drawn to him - he's really wonderful. But I feel that all this is beginning to affect my attitude towards her.
Most likely, I would have taken it easier if I had not feared that one day, having drunk too much, she would begin to behave too frankly with him. She cheated on all her partners and, most likely, simply does not know how to control her instincts. On top of that, she is still beautiful and sensual. I'm not sure that there is a man who can resist her.
Maybe it’s uncertainty that makes me come up with such a development of events ( family history engendered in me the fear of being abandoned). I talked to my husband: she also did not hide from him increased attention to him, but he assures that this interest is one-sided.
It can be assumed that she always enjoyed success with men, the number of victories was more important to her, and not the quality of the relationship. Now it turned out that everything was not so rosy for her. You haven't said much about her, but it seems that her behavior is due to some kind of trauma in the past. And that is also her responsibility, not yours.
It seems that you decided to stand on the sidelines and not intervene until you have “evidence”. But if a girlfriend crosses the line, you will be even more hurt, and your relationship will definitely suffer. And who knows, whether your husband will involuntarily succumb to the temptation. But you seem to be leaving everything to the mercy of fate. Why?
It is always difficult to face your fears. Moreover, you yourself are not sure of the validity of your suspicions. But still you are so alarmed that you decided to write about it. And your husband admits that these are not just your fantasies. You can still do nothing, expecting that everything will work itself out (or, conversely, explode), or you can act.
You need to decide whether to talk to a friend and which of you is better to do it: you or your husband (or maybe both). It is very important that you and your husband are at the same time. If you decide to talk, it is best to speak as directly as possible: “I don’t like the way you behave with my husband. It upsets me, and I would like you to behave differently. Or, for example: “We have been friends for so many years and I love you, but what you are doing now is unpleasant to me. Let's discuss this."
